However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.
Among the biggest reasons that he likes you is because you're young.
Yes, he might be into you because you like the same bands and you act "mature for your age." (Has he ever told you that you have "an old soul?
" Puke.) But mostly, it's the fact that he's your first.
Not necessarily just sexually, but myriad other ways, too: The first guy you watch with, the guy who buys you a copy of Pink Floyd's "Dark Side of The Moon," the first one in the passenger's seat as soon as you get your learner's permit...
Being the older, wiser man is a power trip for him. There's probably a reason no woman his age wants to date him. Defending your relationship will frequently ruin your friendships.
You'll end up alienating the friends who are dropping truth-bombs such as the one above.
Next thing you know, he's your closest friend as well as your boyfriend — which creates a co-dependent dynamic that's bad for any relationship.8.
Whether or not you tell your parents about him or not, it's a lose-lose.
If not, the sneaking around, lies and secrets will strain your relationship. Sleeping with him might be a bigger emotional deal for you than you think.
And if you tell them, you'll deal with all-out fights.9. No matter how special he insists you are, the chances are that he's been dating younger girls for years.10. I know hearing that is like sticking a fork in your chest and ripping your heart out. Maybe you're sure that you won't be dramatic about it, like "other girls." But that shit tends to sneak up on you. And maybe somewhere down the road, things will be different for both of you.
And it doesn't mean you're weak or naïve— it just means that you value yourself. If he's married, he's not going to leave his wife for you. Let me rephrase that: It probably last, because as you get older, you'll change (which is normal and great so don't fight it! But the only way for that to happen is to let it end when it's supposed to.