Today is International Butch Appreciation Day and the first thing that comes to mind is how grateful I am for the butches in my life.
It sounds clichéd but I am truly blessed with butches who help me move apartments, …
Brunches, fundraising walks in Central Park or Chelsea Piers, … Continue reading My friend: still seeing that stone butch? Continue reading – if a femme you just met is sick, you offer to bring her soup, and she declines, don’t keep asking.
Continue reading More unsolicited two cents from Yours Truly and my femme friends: – good manners open more legs than the best pick-up lines you can come up with. Me: she sent me flowers and that was the kiss of death. Not sure if it’s a NYC thing, but my happily partnered friends have paid for dinner 99% of the times we got together last year. It makes you sound like a creep who wants to know where she lives to stalk her.
Both: (laughs) Me: I was going to prolong it so I could watch The X Files at her place, but a …
Continue reading Some of my friends are in a Valentine’s Day gift buying frenzy – sparing no expense to get anything from flowers to Beyoncé tickets at $1,300 a piece to weekends in Atlantic City or new boobs…
By Jade Salazar “If you’re dating a woman who looks like a man, then why don’t you just date men? Granted, most of the time we get this question it is just some jerk trying to get under our skin, but as unbelievable as it may sound, there are still some people who look us in the eye and ask because they truly wonder.
The simplest answer is easily summed up in two words.
“No vaginas.” However, the people who ask this question seem to have forgotten what the word “lesbian” means, so I am going to go a little further.
I acknowledge that there are many different relationship and gender dynamics, but I can only speak based on my own personal attraction.
Though I wouldn’t say my girlfriend “looks like a man,” she has short hair, wears flannel, and definitely has a rough and tumble way about her that makes it pretty hard to imagine her in a dress.
The moment someone asks why I don’t just date men, they are telling me that they have no understanding or appreciation of what it means to be a woman.
This may be a man whose idea of women has been restricted to what he sees in beer commercials, or it may even be a woman who has not taken the time to acknowledge all the incredible sides of her own femininity.