No one wants to be the Captain Ahab of the dating world.2.
When you like a guy, and your mutual friends have multiple anecdotes about him projectile vomiting after excessive drinking, you need to rethink the infatuation.
It's about finding the puzzle piece you fit with and the Ernie to your Bert.4.
My latest one was to use my handsome friend RC's picture and create a male profile so I could get a really good look-see into the man's world of online dating.
The profile had the same hobbies and details, but I made him slightly taller, his profile briefer and more humorous than his own would be, in order to promise mass appeal.
In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.
When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.
I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.
Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.
I realize that my past experiences have made me who I am today, but I still wish I could go back in time and have a sisterly chat with poor, clueless, "younger me."I could've written three novels, started a business and hiked the Appalachian Trail with all the wasted time and energy.
It's too late for me, but maybe you can learn from what I wish I knew then.1.
Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once.
There's a difference between making something a priority and having an obsession.