By: David De Angelo, Author of "Double Your Dating" 06/04/09 Dating Tips Home / Online Dating Home / Opposite Sex Channel Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to approach, but didn’t know quite how to do it? But women hate how desperation smells, and if a beautiful woman sees that you're not looking for just anyone who'll return the conversation, and that you're not intimidated by their looks, that's GOLD, man, GOLD. 2) Isn't it worth the risk to try ANYTHING else if there's even a CHANCE that it will actually work? I was always nervous when I was around hot looking girls. I just can't figure out some C&F to say at this point to amplify the situation. He told me a story about a woman that said this to him. Now that I know it's from you, I would like to say you're a total genius. By the way, you said something that was very interesting in your email.
The other night I was at a burger joint near my office. as you used in ur letter, Women aren't attracted to Wussies what is meant by that. ***QUESTION*** David, I've been reading your newsletter for about a month now and I respect your honesty and perspectives.
It's one of those grungy independent places that's popular with the locals, and out of towners make a point to visit if they're here for something else. waiting for ur reply bye MY COMMENTS: Yes, I can explain the concept of what a "Wussy" is quite easily. I used to call women all the time, kiss up to them, give away my power to them, and every other WUSS-ISH thing you could do. A Wussy is a guy who gives away his power to women, and behaves in a "submissive" way. The things you've said makes lots of sense and I have no doubts that they work.
The line had snaked around, and a group of three cuties was standing in front of my table. She dipped it in my cup of ketchup, and right as she popped it in her mouth, I looked her in the eye and said "By the way, I double-dip." In the space of two seconds, her expressions ranged from shock at my brashness, to wondering whether she should be grossed out, to laughing. and the thing is, I didn't even want to, because I've been seeing a solid eight. If you say things like "waiting for your ur reply", you're communicating like a Wussy. In fact, I have observed others use your techniques they and get remarkable results with the ladies.
They were talking about what they'd heard, and one of them said she was looking forward to their fries. Sure, there are hotter, but until recently I would have thought she was entirely out of my league. If you don't know what a Wussy is, you probably are one. Now, when I read your newsletters, I thought to myself and realized that I have been somewhat using your "cocky and funny" techniques unconsciously...
Since I had a bunch of fries in front of me, I made eye contact and gave my fries a Vanna White flourish with my hands. Guys who aren't Wussies know what a "Wussy" is because they usually MAKE FUN OF THEM a lot. ie, teasing the girls, making fun of them but not putting them down. I make some of the girls I work with as well as my customers laugh.
so if you want to get better at attracting women, you'd better start paying attention to and taking control of it. But since everyone is reading these Mailbags to learn about how to attract women, we're going to have to skip this discussion. And for all the guys who doubt that what we're talking about here "works", just ask yourself these questions: 1) Is what you're CURRENTLY doing working? ***QUESTION*** Hey Dave, Been getting your newsletter for about two months now. It is like reading "How to double your dates for Dummies". I'm certainly still new to this and I am practicing everyday constantly. I understand how the composure, voice tone and everything works. Some girls actually say this exact same lines like "Why don't you give me your email/number and I'll email/call you." I really am stuck after they said this. I have one good friend who has been with literally HUNDREDS of women. I asked her to write down her email and number, and she said "You give me your number" etc. Then, as the conversation went on, she started making comments about talking to me in the future, giving her my number, etc. If you were, you wouldn't be playing games with me, and you'd just give me your number". Funny enough, my standard response to "Why don't you give me your number instead and I'll call you" is to just look at her and say "Write it down. Remember what you've learned in my DVD program about what a woman is REALLY looking for. Just because a woman says "Give me your number instead" doesn't mean that you've lost control. ***COMMENT*** OMG okay Dave, I'm a female and have been reading your newsletters to try and figure out where guys get their "game" from. If there's one thing that's better than a man recognizing my genius, it's a cute gal recognizing it.
But my boss sees I'm not intimidated, and I get stuff done. Your body language says everything about you to a woman... the fact is that GUYS have their own set of bizarre behaviors too. The stuffs in your book and DVD are so easy to be understood. As a matter of fact, some of my favorite stories that my friends and I laugh about are about times that I started conversations with women. Let me give you a couple of different perspectives on your situation. You have what I like to refer to as a "high quality problem". Oh, and feel free to send your picture and phone number with your emails in the future.
Women can "smell" it because women are approximately TEN TIMES better at reading body language than men. Keep in mind, we're talking about women here, and I don't mean to pick on them... Yea, when you start getting good at approaching women, you will start having all kinds of far-out things happen. I don't know many women who could explain this stuff the way I do.
When someone says something like this, what they're trying to say is that there's something about "desperation" that women pick up on... Desperation comes across in all kinds of subtle ways, from how you talk to a woman, to the eye contact that you make, to how often you call her. On the other hand, women will often SAY that they don't like certain types of guys or certain traits, then they'll turn around and SLEEP with one of these exact guys.
"...women hate how desperation smells..." Because this doesn't make a whole lotta sense to most of the guys who read it, let me do the honors of breakin' it down for ya... The REAL profound insight that I've had relating to this topic is that women will often SAY that they want one thing, but then when they GET it they seem like they don't want it.
Well, I think my favorite line in your email was... Fast movements convey nervousness and skittishness. I have a good friend who holds his drink a certain way when he's talking to a woman that he's interested in. On occasion, a woman will freak out, but after they actually "get" what I'm talking about, they almost universally LIKE the ideas).