And, in the city, they're changing even faster than usual.Our hyper-distracted temperament, grass-is-greener FOMO, and impatient demands to get everything, like, yesterday are rewriting the rules of dating quicker than you can say "swipe right." What was once an afternoon (fine, a lonely Sunday evening) spent trawling Ok Cupid is now a five-minute Tinder blitz during a treadmill run. Boundaries are being crossed, rubbed out, and re-drawn.What was once speed-dating is now a "pheromone night" spent cautiously sniffing strangers’ T-shirts. It’s a brave new world in which finding a date is as easy as ordering a pizza — although not always as satisfying.
But, what exactly does that mean for being single in the city?
For many, this new landscape has made dating more fun, more diverse, and more empowering than ever. Hold on tight; we’re not in Kansas anymore…In the city, we’re all very busy, and time is the most precious of all our assets.
We command instantaneous communication, real-time news, and 24/7 information, and our dating attitudes now reflect the same warp-speed principles.
It’s no coincidence that so many of our Tinder profiles declare that we’re not looking for a pen pal; we’re looking to get to the point, because we don't have time to waste. With a social-media-enabled world out there offering new matches and distractions, waiting three days, or even 24 hours, to reply to a text is as antiquated as sending a carrier pigeon.
Even people raised on a confused diet of Germaine Greer and It might be a more business-minded approach, although that needn’t be a bad thing.
Rachel Mac Lynn, MD, founder of exclusive matchmaking agency, The Vida Consultancy, cut her teeth as a business psychologist and incorporates that ethos into her workings. You need to really define what that goal actually is. Whether it's IRL, online, or mobile, multi-dating is the new normal.
Be prepared to be one of, if not many, then at least a few.
(But, you’re a city mouse and totally adept at multi-tasking, right?
You’ll be fine.) Location-based apps, like Coffee Meets Bagel, have expanded the pool of possibilities and created a previously unexperienced ease.
Joel Simkhai, CEO and founder of Grindr, tells us, “I wanted a more spontaneous way to meet guys, but had no idea it would become such a hit.
I’ll never forget the first time I went to London a few months after launching Grindr.