An hour or so into the date, he looks me straight in the eyes and says: ' You have got to stop touching your hair because it's driving me crazy.
Despite a few duds and near misses, her perseverance—plus an online connection seven years later that resulted in a marriage proposal—would eventually reaffirm her belief that online dating is an ideal way to make a real connection with another person.
"Meeting someone in a bar never quite worked out," she says.
"The bar scene was always about ' Hey baby, you're hot' after a few drinks." Though once considered the sole province of the nerdy and socially challenged, online dating has come a long way.
In 2000, Brenda Allison graduated from law school and moved to Chicago.
There, she found a supportive group of friends, an apartment within walking distance of the city's hottest spots..absolutely no time to date.
"I'm a lawyer, and it's a job that takes up a lot of time," she says.
"I didn't know how I was going to meet someone, especially when with what little free time I had I wanted to spend it with my friends." Heeding advice from friends living in New York City, Allison turned to the Internet.
"There weren't a lot of people using the Internet to date back then," she says.
"I had to go to Kinko's and scan in a picture of myself for my profile." Soon after that, she was on a date.
"I met this guy for drinks, and everything was going fine.
I have a tendency to mess with my hair when I get nervous, so I start running my hands through it.