This Grad Hacker post was written collaboratively by Amy Rubens, Ph D candidate in English at Indiana University, @ambulantscholar, and Katy Meyers, Ph D grad student in Anthropology at Michigan State University, @bonesdonotlie.
Here is some advice from Amy (who is happily taken) and Katy (who is currently negotiating the dating scene).
Meeting people is perhaps the biggest obstacle grads face who are on the dating scene.
Think about it: We go to class with the same—and likely small—cohort of people semester after semester, year after year.
The same is true for grads conducting research in say, a lab.
Conversely, graduate school can be an isolating experience.
For instance, those who are in the dissertation stage often work alone a majority of the time.Teaching duties further take away the time and social contact needed to meet someone who is an eligible, compatible date. Perhaps the second biggest challenge graduate students face on the dating scene is finding the time to date.We have extremely busy schedules, and it can be hard to make time to meet new people when you barely have time to hang out with your old friends. Say hi to the cute guy you see in the coffee shop studying every Sunday, or try out a speed dating event.Honestly, the worst thing that can happen is that you have an awesome dating horror story (trust us on this one). You gain the confidence that comes with practice, which only can help you the next time around.We’re curious to hear how other graduate students navigate the dating scene, so share your advice (or horror stories, if you dare) in the comments section!prepared for a breakup about three weeks from now.” That was the relationship advice I got from a girl in her second year of my boyfriend’s graduate program, just before he started the first semester of his MFA in creative writing.