Being exclusive too soon."As a dating coach I encourage my clients to cast a wide net and date more than one person until talk of exclusivity arises," Cantarella says."I've found that because my divorced clients come from long-term monogamous relationships, they feel they shouldn't date more than one person at a time," she adds.Dating more than one person allows you to compare and contrast and see who rises to the top.
What to do instead: The idea of monogamy should be introduced in a committed relationship, not forced on one.
You should date more than one person, so that you have an opportunity to see who is an ideal match for you. There aren't always hard and fast rules regarding when to start dating.
Also, never assume that you are in a committed relationship until you have discussed it with the person you are dating. The circumstances surrounding your divorce or even the state of your marriage pre-divorce may play a part in whether a woman is emotionally ready to date.
I'm hoping to change all that, but the mere thought of entering the dating world in earnest is scary as can be.
To remedy my fears, I turned to seasoned dating coaches, Julianne Cantarella, MSW, and Elisabeth Lamotte, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, to figure out the biggest dating mistakes single moms make (and the smart moves that should replace them).1.
Waiting too long to start dating again."Re-entering the dating world is easier when you haven't been alone for too long," says Cantarella."Once you've taken the time to recover from your divorce, you might want to try getting your feet wet.I've seen clients get overly comfortable being single, so when they re-enter the dating world it brings on a whole set of complexities.Like being 'set in their ways,' which makes it even more difficult to be open to someone new to share their lives with," Cantarella says.What to do instead: Start out slowly, Cantarella says.One safe, effective and time-efficient way to start out is to trying online dating. You are able to set the pace and decide who is right for you.2.